Women love long, thick cocks... right?

Actually, up to 80% of women have difficulty reaching orgasm from penetration alone, and nearly 3 out of every 4 women experience pain during intercourse at some point in their lives.

I was one of these women. I was always very sex-driven and horny, but sex felt like a chore. For years, sex was painful and unpleasant, and I had difficulty gaining any help or sympathy. When I was 19, my gynecologist recommended drinking wine and soaking in a bath of Epsom salt and even prescribed me a numbing ointment to apply before intercourse. In my fantasies, I wanted rough, spontaneous sex, but in reality, I would need an hour long ritual and a completely numbed vagina just to attempt it.

And then I became a camgirl. I've since learned exactly what I needed to really love penetration, and the answer was not booze and numbing cream. Here are some of my first-hand tips for you or your lady to start loving penetration.

1. Foreplay is Not Optional

A woman needs to be warmed up before being penetrated, especially if penetration is painful or scary. Make her cum or at least get her close before fucking her.

2. Don't Forget "Beforeplay"

Beforeplay is the time before you get intimate... sext each other, tease each other in public or share some dirty talk. Make her brain horny before you make her body horny. So few people realize the importance of this step that I had to make up a word for it.

3. LUBRICANT

I had read this tip when I was younger but didn't realize how important it was until now. You can never use too much lubricant, and this step alone may be all you need to have better penetrative sex. Also, don't be afraid to try different types! I thought lube was more or less useless until I used cum lube, and now I use it everytime I masturbate. Also, don't be afraid to keep applying during sex!

4. Use Shorter Thrusts

While most porn depicts long thrusts, going all the way in and pulling all the way out, that can cause a lot of stress on the most sensitive parts of the vagina. Instead, try entering her as far as she likes, and giving her shorter, faster pumps. This will stimulate her G-Spot more while causing less friction.

5. If it Hurts, Try Something Different

Be honest with your significant other, and don't push yourself too hard. Enduring pain with the hope that it will "stretch you out" (another gem of advice I had received from an OBGYN) will only make you afraid of doing it again. Instead, try changing positions, applying more lube, or stopping altogether. Never feel bad for denying somebody sex because it hurts you.

6. Work Your Way Up

If you want to take a larger cock but don't enjoy penetration, start smaller. Use fingers and smaller toys when you masturbate. It might be harder to climax at first, but in my experience, it leads to much more satisfying orgasms.

6. Use Toys Designed for Female Pleasure

Try toys that don't look like dicks. The Njoy G-Spot Metal Wand comes to mind, but many toys that target your g-spot exist, and masturbating with them will help you learn how you enjoy g-spot stimulation without stretching you out or causing pain.

8. Masturbate with Penetration in Mind

Try masturbating to the idea of being penetrated before actually doing it. For many women who experience pain during intercourse, myself included, the idea of penetration can become unpleasant or scary. Try watching porn, reading erotica, or simply imagining more penetrative scenarios while you masturbate to help you overcome your unpleasant association.

Hope this helps!

<3 Codi Vore