I'm sure you ladies have heard the term before, 'Findom'. It sounds amazing and great! WOW! Guy literally sending me money because it makes their cock a doodle doos hard? SIGN ME THE FUCK UP! But, it doesn't work that way. I know, it sucks! BUT IT GETS WORSE. There are a few buttholes out there that will flaunt the idea of financial domination in your pretty faces, to get your personal information. So here I am, that annoying little know it all who is about to educate the freak out of your beautiful minds. Ladies get ready, for HOW TO FINDOM SAFLEY!!!
First off, let's go over financial domination. What is it? Basically, it's a fetish where guys rock their socks off by sending pretty ladies (like ourselves) money! Why? No idea. Sometimes it is a sub-fetish of cuckolding. They love the idea that we will go out and get pampered to entrap hot men with the money they sent! Other times, they feel unworthy about their dicks and feel the need to send money. Their line of thinking is, at least I can satisfy her by showering her with them dolla dolla bills y'all! Either way, these boys with this fetish are few and far between. I've been dominating poor unfortunate souls for 5 years now, and I have only met a handful of genuine "paypigs".
On the off chance that you found your unicorn, your little leprechaun willing to part with his pot of gold, here is how you can get paid safely!
1.) NO PAYPAL!!!!!!!
We have heard it all before, but I will repeat this rule for the few that may not know. Paypal is evil. It is the devil. It is a company that only allows Chaturbate members to use it. Any other sex worker, sex site, or even a random girl selling nudes will have their account closed and money taken if they are using it. DONT EVER USE PAYPAL!!!!
2.)NEVER EVER TAKE CREDIT CARD NUMBERS!!!!!!
This actually just happened to me. A stupid worm popped into my DMs on Twitter, offered me a credit card number and begged me to use it. He provided an address and a name to use for the credit card. I did some research on the worm, and turns out he wrote every Jane Doe the same message. Not surprising. The card was also a little old ladie's and stolen. Not surprising either. If someone won't give you the money themselves, it is usually because the card is stolen, and if they make transactions themselves, it would be easier for them to be caught by the card company.
There is something else they may try to do. This happened to a close friend of mine. She used their credit card number for her Amazon account (against my advice) and they were able to hack into her account because of this. They were able to gain her address, her legal name, and the last few digits on her own credit card. How? I really don't know. But they locked her out of her account it took an hour filled with anxiety and fear to get it back. Don't do it kiddos, it ain't worth it.
3.) Always have random paypigs pay through sites you trust!
A lot of times these boys will beg you to let them pay through a specific site. Unless it's one you trust, be wary. Some sites do allow chargebacks and they won't honor the fetish. I had a friend lose thousands of dollars because of this. Her longtime paypig decided he was suddenly against the fetish, despite her YEARS of one on one communication, Skype shows, and texting time with him. He chargebacked YEARS of gifts and payments, and the site let him. If a boy asks you to use a site you're not comfortable with, tell him. Don't be afraid to put your foot down and tell him no. If he has your best interests at heart, he will heed what you're saying and make a new account where you ask him too.
4.) Use common sense and trust your gut!
This sounds like some silly cliche rule. But it's a die-hard good one. If you are talking to a boy, and suddenly feel like something is wrong. Maybe his answers aren't adding up, he seems sketchy, or just overall have a feeling of wrongness, cut it off! Our intuition often picks up subtle red flags, even if our conscious mind doesn't. Always trust your gut, it can really keep you out of trouble.
Findom is a fun fetish, that is incredibly sexy for both parties. I hope you ladies have lots of luck with it! Just remember to be safe!
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Thank you for the advice!
Great Article, thanks
What should you use instead of PayPal? What are some trusted sites? I’m clueless
That's the thing, it sorta puts people providing Fimdom between a rock and a hard place. Since you are dealing, with mostly, direct transactions; yes paypal is one of the only services that provide this, and no one wants to or should put out their actual bank info for direct deposit type of stuff either.
the safest way IMO, is to do it by proxy, and by that I mean: alternate services that would serve the same purpose. IE: maybe amazon gift cards on a wishlist, or wishlist items it general. Having a middle man? Someone larger company that pays out through paypal to you. Manyvids for example. You could put "Store Items" of various values, and then MV would be forwarding that to you... (yes MV would get a %, but this would eliminate the person's ability to directly charge back or report your paypal account).
Cryptocurrency, like bitcoin is another option.
as a heads up, cryptocurrency is no more anonymous or encrypted than sites like paypal (and actually is less because bitcoin has a public ledger.) It's def a more protected option, but it's not fully anonymous.
Great Article, thanks for the info!
Great info, staying safe is #1 in this biz!I see a lot of girls here (and many other places) saying that they still use Paypal and have never had an issue with it. Just wanted to chime in and give myself as yet another example - They DO shut down accounts, confiscate all funds, include a letter saying no appeals are allowed and you are prohibited from ever having a paypal account in your name. I had my work account and my personal account (which I kept completely separate) both frozen indefinitely. I still have the letter from 2 years ago when this happened, if any girls should need proof
Awesome article. Thanks Kristie... ❤❤
Awesome article!
Great article.
Awesome article kristie!! Really useful stuff!
Also do not accept gifts sent to you through amazon.. wait until you have the gift in your hand before giving them what they paid for. Otherwise they can cancel the gift anytime, even when it's already been shipped! If you get amazon GC spend it before exchanging services! Otherwise he can cancel it.
I have also had snapcash transaction canceled after giving a private.. I wouldn't trust snapcash either. I have also heard that snapcash will doxx you eventually after making a certain amount of money.
When a guy is insistent upon using PayPal I assume he is just trying to fuck me over and not pay me in the end.
Awesome article kristie!! Really useful stuff!
Also do not accept gifts sent to you through amazon.. wait until you have the gift in your hand before giving them what they paid for. Otherwise they can cancel the gift anytime, even when it's already been shipped! If you get amazon GC spend it before exchanging services! Otherwise he can cancel it.
When a guy is insistent upon using PayPal I assume he is just trying to fuck me over and not pay me in the end.
Seconding the no PayPal rule. Literally all it takes is one person to tell PayPal that you're a sex worker, and they don't even look into it. They freeze your account straight away AND keep ALL of your money. You'll never be able to have another account there, or even if you are associated with someone else's PP, they will ban them too. They're a joke of a company.
Honestly this is such good advice for porn payments and tributes in general. If someone wants a custom or anything like that, but doesn't want to pay your preferred method, it's almost always a big red flag!
Thanks for the awesome article, Kristie. You're wonderful! 💕
very good article I love it how you emphasize safety responsibility and accountability
as a man i enjoy female domination because I think and feel that there is a lot of expectations on a man to take charge and be in control of nearly every situation in regards to heterosexual relationships . honestly i find letting your guard down and allowing yourself to be vulnerable to be a relief and quite pleasurable . instead of working hard to gain attention from the opposite sex there the ones working hard to gain attention from me . As for financial domination it's like I work my butt off to gather resources and then having someone come along and try to take it all away from me leaving me feeling ripped off and cheated . just because i like female domination doesn't mean i enjoy financial domination its a total boner killer for me . I just thought I might as well share my two cents if you wanted to hear a male perspective
No one cares that YOU aren't into FINDOM. This article is NOT about femdom. Your boner killer isn't a findom subs boner killer. Move along.
1) Nobody wants to hear about your boner 2) This article has "Findom" in the title, so why click on it if you're not into it, or willing to learn more about it?
I just happened to enjoy reading articles and commenting on them . if you dont like what i wrote down then maybe you should move along . my intention was never to fetish shame any one i just wanted to express my thoughts and opinions about the subject .
Thats fairly common reason for being into Femdom. You'll find most men in powerful positions at work, are generally into submission in the bedroom. Its a feeling of relief to give control over to someone else for a bit, let your mind rest, and enjoy the powerplay dynamic with someone you trust. I understand your disinterest in findom. I wrote this article for women in the industry. Findom is a fetish many men throw in a womans face, to gain her interest, and eventually scam her. This is a safety article.
I have my first cash meet set For this Friday? Any advice you could give me? Should I ask for a deposit?
Yes. Should ask for a deposit before even entertaining the idea.
Have security with you, a friend or a guy that is in the background, and watching to amke sure nothing goes awry.
This is wonderful, I have had so many people try to push me into using paypal or other methods that breach my privacy - lost quite a few sales, but it is well worth it!!!
very important information. Thank you
cool article.
Yes to all of this! Awesome article Kristie!
Agreed! I've been in this industry since 2006 and doing all sorts of domination since 2011. Only a handful are serious. Great safe article for the New girls
I've had a similar experience with google wallet recently. I don't recommend using it for payment either. A sub I had for almost 2 years went through his bank and reversed all charges. I never even received an email. I log into my google wallet just to see I had a negative balance in the thousands. I contact google wallet immediately just for them to tell me.. Since the charges were reversed with his financial advisor, they cannot help me. Suggested just contacting my local authorities and paying the money back "that I owed". Never again with google wallet...
Omg that's terrible
thanks for the help x
Great advice. Thank you. 💜
Thanks
PayPal: I use one account for my adult work then transfer it immediately out. Also, if not PayPal what sites would you recommend using for money handling? I also use google wallet, Circle Pay & Venmo.
Cash app is a good one!
I use manyvids, iwantclips, cammodeldirectory, niteflirt, and indiebill(fav for findom stuff) along with bitcoin. If a customer finds me at a specific site I tell them to pay through that site. If a customer found me on twitter or reddit, bitcoin is my fav.
It astounds me that some people still use PayPal for adult work 😐
My PayPal has been frozen bcz someone filed a refund and I cam on Chaturbate as well as on other adult web-sites. How can Chaturbate help me to unfreeze it and get my hard earned for years money plz?
even if your account was frozen, you will be still able to log in and get your money (it might expire but I don't think that's legal)
PayPal actually has really awesome customer support over the phone and they're very friendly and helpful and will get your all your balance back!
It happened to me and I called and was able to get the money (account was frozen for life)
Phew, that calms me down a bit💨
But they said I need to wait 6 months before I can get Any cash out (if they leave me any ofc). Could you cash ur balance out earlier than 6 months? Did u create a new account right after or they block ppl after they broke the rules once?
When it happened to me I HAD to wait the 6 months... that happened around 2006 and I STILL can't make a new account.
I have only one experience, the guy begged me to push him but was trying to manipulate with me instead. If you don't know what you are actually after, just leave me alone
Great advices 👏
great advice
Thank you so much for mentioning PayPal. Don't get sucked in ladies. If caught and lots of models do get caught they will take ALL your money and close down your account.
A great article for those new to this fetish
Thank you for he advice! I've dabbled in femdom via camming sites for years but really want to be a Findom. I absolutely adore tease and denial/abuse of men and if I can cash out on that and abuse them financially the that's a HUGE plus!
Love findom !
Great post with great advice!
I've never had an issue with paypal.
Me either
Good advice, this goes for more than just findom but people will specifically target findom models because they think giving you *100%* will be better. No bitch you pay me how I want to be paid. Gawrsh! Keep up the good work girl~☆
I used to do domme sessions privately if someone makes it worth my time, but the last time I did one, the guy claimed to be into blackmail fetish in addition to findom and he paid me to send him a few things that he bought (heels for him to clean, photos, etc) and when he kept asking for more than he paid for, all of a sudden he claimed that he wasn't into the blackmail fetish. He started threatening me and told me what I was doing was illegal and how he wanted a refund, how he was going to get my business shut down (my non-sex work related stuff), and how he was going to sue me, come to my apartment, all that stuff. I was a little freaked out, but I figured they were empty threats and they were (since nothing happened after I blocked him on all social media and ignored his emails). Findom is definitely more risky than any other fetish work I've done, so good on you to write this article and let people know!
awesome article
I use Paypal all the time. BUT its not mine. Its my husbands business account he has used for his IT work . he checks it constantly and puts it straight in the bank so I never have trouble. I have never Ben a dim but might give this a try!
Any customer could report the PayPal account you're using, get a refund, AND get your account frozen/banned. I've been banned since 2006 and still can't make a new account!
You're taking a HUGE risk doing this. Especially if he uses it for work. If he gets his account shut down, he might be effed if he needs to make a new one. I'd make one for you specifically if you really need PP, but I suggest just not using it at all. Find another way to accept money to be safe.
My ex got his ppl account shut down bc I was getting guys to send the money to his account and then I would transfer the money to my account. He still owes paypal like $600
Its his side "job" of selling his plans and computer parts. He has the same risks i do and has been prepared for it. He has had people try to report and get refuns before and never once has any charges been taken from us.
He has had people report his accou t before. We owe nothi g and still have our account. I dont know why there has been no trouble for us there just hasnt been any
LOVE your pic and LOVE this article!! Awesome job
Thank you!
Love the photo Kristie !! Good read and so informative
Thanks Destiny!
So hard for me to back into fully. After having a wife find out about me and threatened me with distortion 😮
I had a wife find out about me during her and her husbands divorce, she wanted his receipts of all payments he made to me, and threatened contempt of court if I didn't follow through. I just ignored her. Remember you are a business, if someone hands you their money freely, there is nothing a wife can do about it. Their relationship is their own issue. It would be like the wife being mad at a bar for him purchasing drinks there. You are not entitled to take any action for the wife, UNLESS, a judge/lawyer reaches out to you. Otherwise the best course of action is to ignore the woman and continue doing your job.
I hear you. Still scared the shit out of me. Lol. Some guys are into that black mail stuff. I'm just afraid to do it now lol
haha love the pic
So good!! proud of u bb
I always look up my pay pigs on Facebook after the initial tribute, trust me it'll tell you a lot.
Dude this is a really good read! Thank you for sharing! i was always too afraid to use someones credit #, and was never sure quite why, but this pretty much sums it up. Thanks love
Using someone's CC is terrible. It can also open you up to legal issues; they can claim you stole it which would be terrible.
This article is definitely Daddy approved. Protect yourself at all times 👊🏾👊🏻
Great advice 👌🏻
Thank You ! also be aware if their wives