Hi, my name is Jessica Grabbit. I have been happily working in the Adult Industry for six years. Here are a few tips and tricks that have kept me safe on my sexy sex worker journey. Hope you enjoy them, and thanks so much for reading this.

Never give out your location:

Guys love to know where you are in hopes one day you might say you’re in the same state as them and maybe one day, you will bump into him at the local grocery store, laundromat, etc., and his online fantasy can be an offline reality.

But let’s really think about that. As a sex worker, you have a 32%-55% chance of experiencing sexual violence in any given year. Knowing that statistic are you comfortable with a random person knowing what state you live in?

But Jessica, this guy has been camming with me for more than six months. He sends me gifts. Shouldn’t I be able to let him know my state so he feels like he knows me?

I still say ‘no’. For me, I believe a sex worker’s privacy/anonymity could be the difference between life and death.

Always verify the client: What does that mean? Verifying a client just means that they are who they say they are. You can do this very easily by using Google's search engine. If you have his name, email, or a picture of him, paste it into the search engine and see what happens. You can also go a further step in verification by asking him for references of other sex workers he’s been acquainted with.

When do you verify? I usually verify everyone who is booking me whether it’s a party (as well as website links), a private party, a meet and greet, sugar daddy, gfe type relationship.

*I also inform them that this information is for my eyes only and will be destroyed after verification*

Always have a travel-text buddy: If you don’t feel comfortable letting people know what you’re doing or who you’re doing it with, no problem. Just make sure you have at least one person you fully trust that you can text pertinent info (i.e. addresses you're at, license plate numbers, etc.) to and who can help you just in case of an emergency.

Always have an emergency reserve of $500 accessible to you at all times: $500 sounds like a lot, but let’s think about the worst case scenario.

You’re booked for a paid gig (whatever it may be). You go and for whatever reason, you want to leave on your own accord, but you can’t. The promoter won’t pay you or take you back to the airport and the lodging promised was only if you held up your end of the deal. No problem for you. Why? Because you have enough money to get a cab, book a hotel room, grab a bite to eat, and get a ride back to the airport the next day. Having a reserve eliminates the need to rely on anyone other than yourself. (It also looks bad ass and lets people know they can’t control you).

Jessica Grabbit