From a dictionary standpoint, a ruined orgasm is when the penis is stimulated until the cusp of orgasm, and then let go, allowing ejaculation to happen, but leaving the man with an unsatisfying orgasm that gives only a fraction of the feeling that a normal orgasm gives. Ruined orgasms are one of those very curious kinks that are ironic and self-contradicting. The fetish is basically all about enjoying how they don't enjoy their orgasm.

So we invited Lady Victoria Valente to examine this fetish of not quite having an orgasm. 

How did you discover this fetish?

I knew this game from the private sector for many years. At that time I was not yet a professional Mistress.

What exactly is a ruined orgasm, and why is it considered "ruined"?

In the ruined orgasm, the orgasm of the male slave is deliberately ruined. The most common variant is to stimulate the penis by hand. The stimulation is aborted before it comes to ejaculation. The orgasm thereby loses its effect.

Do you like ruined orgasms? If yes why?

Yes, I like this game very much, as it is very intense for the slave and also very humiliating. Often, following the 1st ruined orgasm after a short break, the penis is immediately stimulated again. With some slaves, 2 or 3 ruined orgasms are possible and finally, the slave can only then really give a cumshot!

In a ruined orgasm situation, what enjoyment does the recipient get? What is the benefit of this?

It is a kind of ritual that begins with many slaves days before, sometimes with chastity devices. They start collecting their sperm for the mistress. Some do not have a penis cage, and everyone has different preferences, but they collect all their sperm. Then they come to me, tied up, and they lie in front of me. Helplessly delivered to me I bring myself the sperm of the slaves. They squirt for me but have no orgasm in their head. It comes to a 2nd ruined orgasm, and only then I allow the slaves that he can cumshot properly. This orgasm is then very intense. It is a game of orgasm control.

Many ruined orgasms seem to involve men getting them, but is it also possible for a woman to get a ruined orgasm?

Yes, of course, this is also possible with women, but I think for women the fetish is not quite as popular as men.

What makes a good ruined orgasm vid?

In a good ruined orgasm vid you should be able to see well as the slave is getting increasingly horny by stimulating his mistress. When stopped with the stimulation just before orgasm. 2 to 3 seconds afterwards the slave then splashes off best in large sperm fountains. It is very fascinating to watch. It requires skill and experience, and when done right it is simply impressive.

Thank you very much Lady Victoria Valente.

So this is where we turn to the readers. What are your thoughts on the fetish? Are you into it? Have you made ruined orgasm vids before? Let us know in the comments! 

MV Team