It was just another day at the peaceful land of ManyVids, when we came across a diaper fetish vid. That got us to put our 'What The Fetish' hats on, and begin looking at just what in the world is diaper fetish.
Fortunately for us, there is an entire wikipedia dedicated to diaper fetish.
This quote from the Wikipedia page sums it up nicely:
"Diaper lovers vary widely in their focus of attention. There is no singular or archetypical behavior; therefore, a wide range of thought patterns and behaviors exist, but all tends to be a harmless and efficacious release from some kind of pressure.
While wearing diapers, a diaper fetishist generally experiences a comforting feeling. For other diaper fetishists, simply wearing a diaper, the bulky feeling and crinkly noise associated with it, is enough to cause the fetishist a form of erotic pleasure or sexual arousal.
However, most practice their diaper fantasies (i.e. the wearing of diapers) in a way that would probably not be noticed by passersby on the street. Some diaper wearers wear their diapers for limited amounts of time, while others prefer to wear them on a 24-hour, seven-day schedule."
The focus obviously here is that they vary widely in their preference for the fetish. So this is where we turn to a pro.
To uncover this fetish, we invited Penny Barber.
What exactly is diaper fetish?
If you know what a diaper is and what a fetish is, you should know what a diaper fetish is. Beyond just a basic diaper fetish, diaper lovers (diaper fetishists, aka “DLs”) may be particularly interested in one type of diaper, whether made by a certain company (like ABU or Diaper Connoisseur) or of a certain material (like flannel or terrycloth). Associated fetishes are age play (“ABDL” for adult baby diaper lover), medical play, plastic, plastic pants, age regression, sissy training, golden showers and pee, chastity, erotic hypnosis, and humiliation. I’m probably omitting a bunch more, but that’s all I can think of!
How did you first get into this fetish?
I began exploring my diaper fetish because I was a bedwetter who was also into BDSM and taboo role play. It was just a matter of time before I stumbled across diaper sex and realized that it was a great magnifier for the feelings of humiliation and discipline that I was chasing. I started out as more of an age player, but that isn’t really something that I connect with anymore except in very private situations with my husband and of course in videos where I can indulge in whatever I feel like. Diapers make me feel incredibly vulnerable. I was also able to bring my husband into my diaper fetish by introducing it as a kink and pairing it with his interest in erotic hypnosis. Recently it has become more about intimacy and mutual caregiving.
Do you wear your adult diapers in everyday settings or is it only limited to whenever you’re doing fetish sessions?
Before I was married and had kids, I used to wear diapers for longer stints, but it’s no longer appropriate to my lifestyle. The diapers that I wear are not exactly discreet and they’re very sexual for me, so I’m not going to wear them while, say, taking my kids to their martial arts lessons. My husband and I do occasionally go on an adults-only vacation and spend some of that time in diapers. We just rented a private cabin in Big Sur and were able to wander around wearing nothing but diapers (or other fun lingerie and costumes) for three days. It’s more of a special occasion now, which I don’t mind in the least. It feels like more of a dirty secret.
It seems that diaper fetish mainly revolves around age play. Or are there other elements involved in diaper fetish?
There are certainly different expressions of a diaper fetish. I personally don’t do too much age play, unless it’s part of a humiliation or taboo scene. For me, diapers are about diaper discipline, BDSM, watersports, and humiliation. There are also those who like them as an expression of a softer sort of submission or as a medical fetish.
Do you have any boundaries or rules when it comes to diaper fetish?
I don’t like to expose others to my diaper fetish without their consent. Flashing is sexual harassment and god knows we have enough of that entitled bullshit. I do occasionally do diapered-in-public scenes, but they’re very discreet. Of course, I don’t want to be arrested, but I also feel that people have a right to move throughout public spaces without being non-consenting props in someone else’s sexual play. When I do engage in public play, it’s more about teasing my partner.
Why do you think people are into diaper fetish?
If you ask 10 different people, you’ll get 10 different answers. Beyond motivation, there are a number of diaper fetish subcultures, too. “Dipsters” are diapered hipsters who might have a special interest in ‘90s Nickelodeon cartoons or who think of diapers as more edgy than embarrassing. “Littles who smoke” are age players who smoke pot while they regress and may or may not wear diapers as part of that regression or just for comfort and convenience. I can personally attest that the physical pleasures of having your diaper changed are increased tenfold when you’re high. “Baby furs” are anthros or furries who also age play, giving new meaning to the phrase “cute overload”. Daddy Dom/little girl (DDlg) players might use diapers in a manner similar to a collar, as an expression of submission and dependence. (While DDlg is most common, there are various other gender matchups of the gender-neutral Caregiver/little dynamic.)
I’m trying to be as inclusive as possible while still giving useful information, but everyone is an individual with their own preferences and reasons. I personally like diapers because they reduce my adult ego and make me feel exposed, vulnerable, dependent, taboo, and embarrassed. The crinkling draws attention to my crotch. Wearing a warm, freshly wet diaper feels good on my genitals. Spreading my legs for a change and having my clitoris gently wiped makes me cum. If you’ve never had a partner use a very soft makeup brush or powder puff on your bits, I highly recommend the experience! And of course, I like to make my partners feel like that, too.
What makes a good diaper fetish video?
When you’re making a fetish video of any kind, it’s tempting to simply put the thing on and just, you know, masturbate or show it off or something. Don’t. It’s a waste of everyone’s time and it’s disappointingly un-sexy. I’ve been doing this since the mid-2000s. Can you imagine hundreds of videos of just me masturbating or having vanilla sex in a diaper? Ugh. Come up with an unusual storyline that necessitates or at least involves a diaper, then role play it out. Talk dirty. Enjoy the diaper on a sensual level. I know that sounds cheesy and odd, but diapers are actually very sensual. Smell the powder. Stroke the plastic. Admire the cute prints and the visual spectacle of watching the wetness indicators fade. And don’t forget to include some sort of climax, even if it isn’t an orgasm. Hell, if you do include an orgasm, be even more sure to include some sort of storyline climax! A porn clip without a climax is, by definition, anticlimactic. You want your viewers to feel entertained as well as titillated.
Thank you so much for those insights Penny. Do you have a question or comment about this fetish? Let us know in the comments below!