We all have different sides to our personalities. Some are more obvious than others. Some we keep hidden, even if it’s the more “real” version of us that only gets to come out under certain circumstances. Most people have several dynamics and complexities to their tastes, lives, opinions and experiences. So, when deciding to go to in to adult content creating, it can be overwhelming trying to figure out which “you” you want to portray to the world.

I think it’s really important to discuss your choice to enter this line of work with your partner. It’s not that you necessarily need their approval but you will at some point need their support and maybe even advice. Good relationships are built on communication and trust. So first things first, discuss entering into this work if you have a partner. It will ultimately strengthen your relationship if you two are a good match and can love and support one another’s ambitions. Plus, if someone comes along in their life and finds your works, you want them to already know about it and the type of content you’re producing. Also, they may even want to star in your videos with you!  But always legally protect yourself if y’all do decide to do that. It’s not a sexy topic, but it can prevent any unpleasantries in the future should you decide to part ways. You’ll still have a developed online persona and business to run, after all.

After you have discussed the desire to enter this line of work and perhaps even discussed the kind of “character” you want to portray, then it’s time for you to figure out where on the spectrum you are in terms of the content you want to create, I think it’s more beneficial to pick out at least two different fetishes that you can cater to. Make sure that you are only doing things that you are comfortable with though. If you’re not into anal, don’t try to become the “Number One Clip Seller of Anal!” cuz that’s just not you, know what I mean? If you want to try it, then by all means. But we’ll get to that later.

For example, I cater to the BBW fetish, which includes belly worship, feedee/feeder and just generally showing off my fat body. I’ll eat on cam so I’m a “feedee” but I’m not trying to get any bigger so I don’t tout myself as a “gainer”. I mostly do solo stuff as a BBW and rarely include my partner and he’s not really into being anything more than a stunt cock, so I wouldn’t advertise myself as a “squasher” (ie. fat chicks who literally sit on/fall on/slam their bodies onto men). It’s just not my thang but there are a lot of chicks out there who cater to that fetish and do it well cuz it’s their thing!

I’m also into the “Female Domination” a.k.a. Femdom fetish in which you have someone approach you as a sub/submissive/slave and you are the Goddess, Mistress or Domme. This fetish includes things like being worshipped, SPH, JOI, CEI, chastity and things of that nature.

It’s basically men who love to be dominated by women (it can be taken even further into humilation, blackmail, slave tasks and things of that nature).

Typically, if a sub/slave truly wants to be owned by you, they should tribute you first and then you both need to discuss soft/hard limits on both ends. I’m more of a “devote yourself to me” more so than “I own you, you little *expletive*.” But if you like to be bratty and demanding, this niche would totally work for you. Also, if you’re into BDSM, boom, this will work for you as well. It’s a refreshing way to gain empowerment as a woman in the industry and this one is a great self-esteem booster if you want to portray that as part of your persona. Financial Domination can also fall under this umbrella but that’s it’s whole own very interesting topic/fetish and isn’t always female-dominated. It works for boys and trans too.

Like with all fetishes and personas, you have to make it your own. As you are building your persona, you need to stick to what you are comfortable with at first and then gradually add to your repertoire. Don’t feel like you have to offer every single thing that’s asked of you. You don’t. If you’re not submissive, then don’t try to be. (I tried this my first go-around at camming and I VERY quickly realized that I am way too dominant and this is why Femdom appealed to me). Maybe you’re a switch (you can “switch” from dominant to submissive and vice versa) so you could try that out if you’re struggling to “pick a side” so to speak.

It’s not uncommon to be totally confused when confronted with with mass amounts of different kinks so it’s best to know who you are, what you offer and stick to it until YOU are ready to develop your online persona even further. When it’s time to step outside of your comfort zone, you’ll know. Just don’t allow yourself to be pulled out of it based on the promise of money, fame, or anything else that can potentially compromise your boundaries and/or lead to safety issues or regret. Stepping outside of your comfort zone is NOT the same as stepping outside of your boundaries. So do your research, be authentic in the character you’ve created and allow yourself time to develop. As more people begin to see you as the persona you’ve created via your content and social media, the more comfortable you’ll be and you’ll have the confidence in yourself to keep on growing and developing!

by MV Girl Octavia Rose