When most people think of BDSM, they likely think of whips and paddles; and more likely than not they think of women in submissive positions and men in the dominant. Clearly this isn't correct and takes a "Fifty Shades" view on a topic. BDSM and kink is a wonderful utopia of sensation, and even the most vanilla couples may unknowingly bring elements in the bedroom (or outside) time to time.
Today I want to talk to you about what being a switch means to me. A switch is a person who does not fit in the dominant, submissive, or vanilla roles; they instead float between them and enjoy each side of the dynamic.
Within my relationship I am both a little and a goddess; my partner is both daddy and my slave. We both vibe off of each others’ demeanors and have to come to a point of understanding each time we decide it's time to play. Each of us has our preferred activities and limits. Daddy loves to let me color before tying me up and letting me use his cock as a pacifier; I love chaining him helpless as I cane his bottom until it’s blue. He loves marks, I prefer not to have them. My point is that every switch is different. Communication is key in any relationship.
My partner loves being able to submit to a woman he knows he can trust, and admits he feels more strength in letting me do things other than what’s expected by society. I love having a daddy who takes care of me and helps me to grow; especially little things like bubble baths, teddy bears and letting daddy brush my hair. I can't speak for all switches, but this is what it means to me. It means feeling like you never have to stay one-sided. I love the expansion I can bring to the bedroom, the ability to talk about my sexuality with my partner without being nervous or afraid. I can dress in costumes and have a daddy who loves me. Or I can be a leather and chiffon clad Athenian goddess who could take over the world.
Both innocent and powerful, seductive and sweet. It means being able to love and trust like I never could growing up, and being able to document my fantasies here as well.
Some people may call me crazy, and that's okay with me. I love the way that being a switch makes me the best me I could ever be.
What do you guys enjoy? I'd love to get to hear everyone's story <3