Mistress Harley takes us through the Blackmail fetish, find out all about this unique kink in this installment of MV Fetish!
What exactly is the blackmail fetish?
Blackmail fetish is a role play fetish where someone gets aroused at the idea of their personal information being used against them to "force" them to do something they would otherwise not do. Much like rape play or other types of non-consent fetishes, this one focuses around the loss of control of the submissive "victim" and the feeling that there would be real life consequences if the submissive failed to obey the dominant.
How did you discover this fetish? How did you begin practicing it?
I discovered this fetish because submissive men were literally begging me for it! They would ask me to take their embarrassing photos, their personal information, even pictures of their passports to make them comply in a BDSM scene.
I was quite wary at first because the idea of blackmail is both taboo and illegal if being pursued in real life. Because like all BDSM power exchange is negotiated play I began with making detailed contracts where a person would explicitly ask in writing for me to use their information for role play purposes.
What are some precautions that people should have for this fetish?
That as with many fetishes as soon as you remove it from the BDSM role play sphere it is absolutely illegal and should never be engaged in without clear consent, the negotiation of boundaries, and a safe word or signal that the submissive party can exercise to stop the play.
Just as rape play and other forms of non-consent play are perfectly fine as long as all parties are consenting, the minute consent is revoked, and the dominant continues the scene you are putting your submissive and yourself in great peril in terms of your relationship, your emotions, and the law.
Is there anything you would like to share with first-timers?
Make sure that you clearly discuss boundaries, limits, and safety before you begin any type of BDSM play, or "edge" play in which someone could end up with regrets. If you are engaging in this play online make sure you have consent in writing!
Do you have a memory, event, or vid, related to this fetish that really stands out in your mind?
I had one submissive that would always beg me in writing to blackmail him into doing forced-bi tasks. He loved the idea of being forced into a huge sissy for me. I would tell him that if he didn't send me videos of him sucking dicks for me that I would post his humiliating photos and personal information in my Loser Hall of Shame, something he had consented to as part of our negotiations. He sent me so many videos of him sucking cock, I feel that the blackmail fetish allowed him to experience a real fantasy he had but would have never been able to perform otherwise.
Why do you think people are into this fetish?
For the same reason people are into any type of bondage, power exchange, they want to feel helplessness, they want to feel controlled by someone who clearly has the upper hand. A lot of mental stimulation goes into BDSM and sometimes it's about having physical control over someone, but mental control can be just as much of a turn on, if not more. The "realness" of the blackmail fetish really can create a sexy pressure for someone where they can truly feel controlled in a long term way that doesn't end when the cuffs get unlocked.
What goes into a great blackmail vid?
It needs to inspire fear in the person watching it. Kind of like a horror movie, if you can really make the sub who is watching it feel the fear and anxiety that would come with being really fucked over by someone who had their information and used it against them, they'll keep coming back for more!
What would you like the general public to know about this fetish?
That as with all fetishes blackmail fetish is a consensual power exchange role play engaged in by adults who are gaining mutual satisfaction from the power exchange. Some people don't know where to draw the line between fantasy and reality, but those people don't represent a larger consent based community.
Thanks for reading my interview about blackmail fetishism! I have lots of blackmail videos and games for those who find themselves even more curious about this fetish.
Do you practice this fetish? Do you WANT to? Not your thing at all?! Let us know all about it in the comments section:
Very professional
Great explanation sounds like bringing domination to a new level.
I've always wanted to try this fetish. This is a very well written explanation. As mentioned, remember, this is fantasy not reality. Loosen up and just have fun way hoo!
Very nice.
Great explanation from a consummate pro!