Part of being a submissive is learning your place. And you only learn your place when you learn to lose your identity as an individual. It is not about attracting attention to yourself. It is not about being different. It is about being the same as every other submissive, following the same basic commands – submit, serve, worship & obey. What helps you to achieve this level of submission is to understand that you need to conform. When you conform to the expected rules, you become a member of the submissive team. And when you are part of the team, you follow the team rules. You learn that when you are a team, you are no longer an individual. You're simply part of the machine – the machine of complete submission.