You’ve been a professor at a public university for a few years now, but you’ve never had a student like Harlyn. Not only is she older than all over her classmates, but there’s just something about the way she speaks and behaves, especially when it’s just the two of you. Technically you’re the authority figure, but you keep getting the strangest urge to defer to her and try to please her. Then she shows up to your office hours one day, sits across from you at your desk, and tells you she knows what’s going on. It’s a common reaction, she says, that certain men have toward her—one that she is more than happy to encourage.