You haven’t had sex for a few years but still wish to get a gf and have a sexual relationship some time. At this point I think you should just quit the idea of having sex because watching porn is so much easier because you can easily fulfill all your fantasies and work on your fetishes, which can be awkward to do with someone else. I know you are into feet, socks, sneakers and anal fetish but many people are not, so I think you should keep doing this by yourself because you can avoid any weird situation and be comfortable about it. Since you've been addicted to porn for so many years now, even if you take a woman to bed you might have problem on getting hard, right? So it's better for you to avoid that and protect yourself for any humiliating situation. I'm saying this because I care for you and I don't want you to get hurt. I feel sorry for you.