You have come here looking for some guidance? Some direction? Maybe you thought you could be helpful? All and good, I suppose, if you are actually ready to make a full commitment. I don't care about the subs that come and go. The only type of relationship that I intend on spending my energy on is with a sub that is ready to fully commit to his service and worship. Do you see where I am going with this? I wouldn't waste my time with someone that wasn't looking for a real connection... and you shouldn't either.