Over the last idk year I've been doing this mental inventory or investigating of myself thing. So far I've learned new things, like: I'm bisexual, my list of kinks/turn-on's is expanding, I should have learned about "Sexplanations" more than a decade ago and that cocaine is not that good for me.
I've also learned new things with my wife, like having sex while watching porn is possible and even fun, but that I don't like to watch the same porn when I masturbate: When I'm wanking, it's all about myself, but when having I'm fucking it's more of a combination pleasuring my partner, some razzle-dazzle and also liking it myself.
So now I have to start finding, buying and easily-but-not-that-visibly storing porn that I can watch while fucking.